Family kiss

Touch makes your family feel extra close

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Our family invented our own special kiss. For bedtime. After a fight. Any time we want to feel extra close. Kubla and Liping both kiss my face at the same time. Then Kubla and I

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Guitar Is My Destiny

Fostering Passion with Loving Connection

Guitar Is My Destiny

Kubla loves music.  We always have music playing in our home.  He loves to find ways to make music with his toys.  For awhile, we have a family piano lesson, but it doesn’t stick. When

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I am not a baby’s marionette

Change the rules of the game

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Like most babies, Kubla loved to drop things and make me pick them up. Like most parents, I quickly got tired of being a baby’s marionette. One day I decide to change the game. Kubla

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There’s no ‘right’ way to play

Stop reading the instructions and start kidding around

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When Kubla was a toddler, he showed no interest whatsoever in stacking blocks. Knock down blocks—absolutely. Make rockets or dinosaurs with his blocks spread flat on the ground—sure. But his creations rarely get more than

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Let it go

Discretion is the better part of parenting

Let it go

Time for dinner.  Kubla is doing his best to ignore me. “Kubla, I said it’s time for dinner.” Silence.  Another call to the table.  He’s in a combative mood. “I want to watch TV.” Normally

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Why am I so bored?!

What a fascinating question

Why am I so bored

Touring Kubla’s school, I see a poster in the teacher’s lounge, hidden from the students: Curiosity is the cure for boredom. There is no cure for curiosity. I commit it to memory.  It’s my go-to

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Just don’t say Bobbledeegoo

Take the power out of curse words

Bobbledeegoo

Kubla comes back from a playdate.  His friend has a potty mouth. Later that day, Kubla plays with his toy cars.  He pushes one off the cliff of our couch.  His hand guides its fall

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How is his compliance?

What is the balance between control and freedom in your family?

How is his compliance

We check out a couple nearby preschools for Kubla.  The playgrounds and classrooms are all pretty similar.  The teachers are all equally friendly.  Our friends say good things about both of them. It’s time for

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Slave Dolphins and Free Sharks

What’s it worth to give up your freedom?

Slave Dolphins and Free Sharks

We watch the dolphin show at the aquarium.  It’s fun, but a little sad to see such intelligent creatures stuck in a tank they can fully explore in under 30 seconds. “Hey Kubla, are those

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Is driving hard?

A lot of things are hard, until you learn how

Is driving hard

I drive Kubla’s friends home from their play date.  Their mom doesn’t have a driver’s license.  Just a learners permit. “Is driving hard?” they ask. “It’s easy when you know how.” “My mom is so stupid.” All

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