I’m always happy to talk things out. We encourage Kubla to negotiate boundaries. But whining—we do everything we can to stamp it out. Including playing with him not getting what he wants. “I want a
Help kids imitate you in a safe way
Kubla was 3. He wants to take my medicine, to be like his dad. I say no. I hide the bottle. He always seems moments away from an overdose. I take an old bottle of
Spit it out if you don't like it
Kubla goes to a friend’s house for a play date. They invite him to stay for dinner. The second he comes home, he asks for a snack. “A snack? Didn’t you just have dinner?” “I
Is it possible to do things together instead?
I like to lift weights at home. It saves me a trip to the gym. Three year old Kubla wants to help. I’m afraid he’s going to get crushed by a dumbbell. Liping tries to
Take the wind out of routine defiance
I encourage small children to say ‘no’ and be naughty. I find that when they get the “no’s” out of their system, they feel less of a need to act up later. And they’re more
A nice way to reconnect
The fight ends. We each go to our corners. Bruised feelings all around. A few minutes later we’re ready to reconnect. I invite Kubla to sit in my lap. We hug. “Who’s my favorite boy
Is it worth the risk?
Kubla has developed a craving for brownies. The ones at the store are full of sugar and chemicals. I decide to make a healthier version at home. I look up a recipe online. I cut
What are your powers?
Kubla loves superheroes. We like to make up our own, each with their own special powers and back story. Kubla likes being Rabbitman. He was bitten by a radioactive rabbit. He can jump really far
Just one drop of poison is too much
Kubla’s friend introduces him to some garbage on YouTube—Violence. Foul language. Women acting like no real person I’ve ever met. He comes home and wants to watch it again. When I realize how bad it
A boredom buster
Kubla and I are walking in the park. He’s starting to dawdle. He looks bored. I pretend my phone is ringing and answer it. I make like I’m listening. “Kubla, it’s that pirate calling again.