Share the burden, lighten the load
Kubla won’t read his primer. He can’t play video games again until he finishes two pages. “It’s too hard,” he whines. “It’s so boring!” I offer him a deal. “How about this—we’ll take turns reading
Forget the pain and rejoin the fun
Kubla chases the ball. He falls. He scrapes his knee. Tears. Kisses. A band-aid. He’s not quite ready to rejoin the action. “Kubla, do you know what kind of kids never get hurt?” He knows
Do you like what you see?
The last few days, Kubla makes a new friend on the playground. We like the parents, too. They invite our family over for dinner. They live on a 3rd floor walk-up. The kids are a
In a scary situation, give them a little control
It’s time for Kubla’s annual check-up. He won’t go. No way are they going to stick him this time. We’ve missed our appointment by the time the tantrum subsides. I reschedule for next week. The
A letter to Kubla’s Principal
I sent this letter to the principal of Kubla’s school: I wonder what the district is trying to accomplish with last month’s lockdown drills. The day of the drill, I asked Kubla to guess what
If you aren’t falling, you aren’t trying hard enough
Kubla is learning to ice-skate. He hobbles back from the first class with bruised knees. I give him a little hug. “What happened? Did you have fun?” “Yeah, but I fell.” “How many times?” “Three.”
When you push away the people who love you most
We seem to be having a good time. Until we aren’t anymore. We’re halfway through the 3rd story book. The cuddling is over. He covers the words with his hands so I can’t read them.
Just adult enough
Kubla and I finish watching the movie, The Little Prince. We had recently read the book together, too. If you haven’t seen the movie, it’s a new story that takes place when the narrator is
What makes a leader?
The night before the Global Climate Strike, I show Kubla Greta Thunberg’s TED talk. I think it should be required viewing for all parents and school-age children. https://www.ted.com/talks/greta_thunberg_the_disarming_case_to_act_right_now_on_climate After the 11 minute video, silence. A
Act like you want to be invited back
Kubla invites a friend to our home after school. They have a great time. I don’t. His friend is disrespectful. He doesn’t listen. He’s loud. He makes a mess. His mom comes to pick him