The fight ends. We each go to our corners. Bruised feelings all around.
A few minutes later we’re ready to reconnect.
I invite Kubla to sit in my lap. We hug.
“Who’s my favorite boy in the whole world?” I ask.
“It’s probably Henry,” I say, referring to a neighbor.
“No!” Kubla protests. “It’s me!”
“Even when you are crying?”
“Even when you yell at me?”
I give him a tickle. “Even when we’re playing and laughing?”
I give him a squeeze. “Even when you’re being loving and delightful?”
It’s easier to reconnect when he never has to doubt the strength of our relationship. When he knows I was only upset with his behavior. Fighting or not, he knows I love him.
How do you reconnect after a fight?
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